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I wish I had known years ago. My daughter is undiagnosed but most certainly suffers BPD.

Become the observer of the thoughts and affects, and you will be liberated.

I'm sorry to hear about your MS. You've been through a lot mind and body. Read stronger than BPD, appreciate your insights and you're really skilled at laying out the tools for DBT, almost think you touched on ACT, and CBT as well, I tend mix them all together. Thanks for your authoring and coaching, and writing down your thought process, helps me understand those conflicted in my life. ✌

Technically, the ( so called) fawn response in humans. can not be classed as a survival threat response like flight, fight, freeze, because it's a learnt behavioural. It's not reflexive/ physiological/ involuntary.

Dear friend You have spoken my life and l am 62. Sending healing and love from me to you. 💚💚

Our adult daughter (age 41) was diagnosed app. 24 years ago with bi-polar and BPD after she moved from Michigan to Arizona. 4 years ago she decided that she no longer wanted to have anything to do with us (we are her triggers) She has blocked us from her phone, etc. A few times I reached out to her with no response. She lives with her ex-husband and he will not respond to us either. Any suggestions as to what we could possibly do to get our relationship back. We are not an abusive family and she had a good upbringing. She has an older sister who lives in Michigan and they would text a few times a year (would not want to talk on the phone) but since last Christmas there has been nothing. I don't want to be a trigger for her so we have kept our distance thinking she will come around. It's killing us.

I am not suffering from BPD but I suffer from a form of Trauma. For me BPD is a massive Trauma response. I now can witness that every aspect of my life slowly heals, as soon I found the therapist I trust, she is with a specific education in Trauma healing. You cant heal if you have no one who is witnessing that bad things happened to you. Some friends, but all of family of origin couldn’t understand. In my case they were part of the Trauma system. I had to get out of the system, break all connections to restart a new life. And it’s true you only can learn to be in the present moment, to trust life fully again, if you learn to regulate your Trauma response. It takes energy but is manageable… you can heal from hit and you can live a happy life… it’s possible…

48yo male w/bpd/oc/situational depression, been doing DBT since my attempt last year, recently discovered and started IFS (internal family systems) Highly Recommend, it goes into your core childhood exiles and protectors to literally heal and re-role/re-program yourself with more healthy responses and reactivity <3

It's a defensive reaction for me, when someones explaining something to me. I start to feel inadequate, useless and need to prove that I do know blah, blah, blah! I suppose as a child there were lots of expectations on me and simply, not knowing something wasn't ok.

Bless you xx

Hey! I also have Bpd even I don't do physical self harm, but I do emotionally destructive things like crying, feeling guilty about myself, self sabotage, blaming my genes & fate. I sometimes feel I have inherited this disorder from my father as he also has such behaviour. I fear from things like using knife & do some destructive imagination.

thank you so much for this. i was diagnosed with bpd last year and I have also had depression and anxiety for almost a decade now. i am getting help for it from a wonderful therapist however my sessions aren't very consistent due to my very hectic schedule and limited finances. i have also had immense trouble opening up about this to any of my friends or family, since i can't help but feel that none of them will truly understand the intensity of emotions that bpd brings, and how unbearably low the lows can get, and might view me as an inconvenience for constantly having to battle these intensities. another reason is that the public opinion of bpd is in bad taste, where everyone with bpd is clubbed together and regarded as horrible humans. i am extremely grateful that i have managed to make it past the lowest of the low, however there are still times it gets really intense and i look for videos like this to help in some way. i don't know if you will see this since i am writing 11 years after the upload date, but i hope you know you are saving lives. i really appreciate and admire how gentle and non-judgemental you were throughout. i almost felt like you were physically with me helping me get through this. i calmed down so much in a matter of 5 minutes and by the end of it was even flooded with lots of self reassuring, grateful, and hopeful thoughts. thank you so much. to anyone reading this i hope you know you are not alone and that there are several people wishing lots of good health and happiness upon you (i am one of them!). you will get through this, hang in there

Why os fawing bad?

Hi. I'm 56yrs old and just got diagnosed with BPD. Suddenly, my entire life makes sense. It's overwhelming, numbing, and relieving all together. I'm currently recovering from my severely violent and traumatic 12 year marriage to my husband who turned out to be a malignant covert narcissist. I just found your channel and already feel safe and validated. Thank you for being here just when I needed it 💜

I dated someone with BPD and npd. I hope that more people decide to seek treatment and heal. I’m secretly in a corner rooting for you all. There are people out there who do love you and truly want what’s best for you.

Good documentary but I have two criticisms. Firstly I wish you could have found a man living with BPD to give his point of view (we are around!). Secondly I don't believe BPD is curable. It is manageable through learned coping skills from DBT for example but even if some symptoms are relieved through therapy and the diagnostic criteria for BPD is no longer met, the remaining symptoms can still be intense and distress causing.

I only just recently realised I was displaying this, I always try to please people even if I'd rather not do what they ask and I freeze and get so scared by any little negative interaction or response and when someone asks me to do something I think is wrong I don't know what to do because of a combination of the two, I realised this isn't something to be ashamed off but your video helped me learn about it more so I can heal it so thanks!

They only time someone tells me Im "crazy" or something is "not right" with me is when I use what I call the "BPD superpower" to check them (after being a punching bag to them too long) and they dont or can't match that energy. How many of us would REALLY get rid of our BPD and just be a normal emotional person if we could? Its a gift. 👍

I don’t have BPD but I also had a very invalidating childhood. To me BPD sounds like the extrem end of Trauma from many diffrent sides in your life. This, and many other factors like being a more sensitive child may cause something super complex in your soul. For me , a body based Trauma Therapy, and similar stuff like DBT was super helpful to recover from my Trauma. I hope it may inspires someone, I also looked into the DBT Selfhelpbook by ML book, some of the stuff was very helpful and could help many people I know...😂…

When you find out the guy you like likes you but also another girl and your immediate response is to befriend her 😅

Thank you for creating and sharing. <3

Thank you for creating and sharing! <3

2024 and this is still very relevant ❤

I think there are classic cases of BPD and extreme cases of BPD like this one. There is a woman going about northern Ireland at the moment who so reminds me of this character, she so needs to be on medication but obviously refuses

My wife has BPD and we are going through counseling now because of some extreme episodes. This video is extremely encouraging thank you so much

"It's an inside job"

2.5 mg Olanzapine helps me with BPD verry well

Thank you so much. I thought I was going crazy. I do this and I was told by a bad therapist I becoming psychotic. My doctors all agree I’m not and I have a fear of abandonment and being cheated on. But hearing your story is exactly what I’m going through. Now I know with or without the label I can quell these fears knowing I’m now alone.

15:47 good brother! 💪🏻

My borderline ex was an incredible lovable woman/girl. I wish she had felt that more often. I too have a bpd tendency. In my view it is as much a gift as it is a burden because we are closer to our inner child if we want to or not. Most adults lose their connection to their inner child and thus to their life force. Borderlines can't do this easily.

Please can you talk more about the steps you've taken to find recovery from BPD

Honestly it just feels good that there are other people out there like me. I thought I was losing my mind. And I didn't think anyone could understand that obsessive mind behavior. It's been really hard but it is nice to know that i'm not alone

I’ve recently split up from my ex who has undiagnosed I think because he’s had therapy for years saying that was for his child hood trauma. But he’s drove me crazy over the past 5 years blaming me for everything never letting me move on from any mistakes I’ve made if I say the wrong thing he would make me suffer bringing it up continually for weeks or even months and years I started drinking cause I couldn’t cope anymore and lied about it to him cause i was so low and scared of his reaction I’ve explained how low I felt to get to that point but he just calls me a compulsive liar and gaslighter narcissist I’m so tired we have a child together he loves his dad so I’m still having content but he’s driving me crazy I don’t know how to get out of this he’s making me so I’ll I’m so tired I don’t have friends or family as isolated me from them . I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t know who I am I feel so lost and lonely

Debbie i love you!!! So good to see a video of you from 11 years ago. Dbtpath is the best ❤❤❤

if your loved one has BPD, how should we, as a caregiver to handle their anger and blaming.

nice but that stat about 75% of people with BPD being female is incorrect. there is a disproportionate rate of diagnosis in females but it's believed that the split is actually 50-50.

How do you start the class? I’m in dbt therapy but I don’t have any support family or system. I pushed them all away.

Your videos, and stories are inspirational. It brought me hope. I just started working with a social worker on dbt. Its a really effective treatment it looks like.

debbie i am so proud of you as i know it has been a challenge...I am happy to report my ex is showing much Improvement though still has issues with npd comorbidity.......

I did the excersise and the thought were slow and steady i but them into buckets i also colored them. And axiety and depression was put into red colored bucket, my obsissivness about something was put in blue etc, and I felt easy and i was excited about what you are going to bring on the table next so i also put the excitement in one bucket. I actually feel lot better and made a bucket listing journal to keep my habit continuity and practice this daily. Thank you please if you have more exercises do share it. Thank you again

Thankyou Debbie ❤

Just discovered channel! ❤ I am also recovering from BPD 🎉 Im learning to trust and am beginning to allow people in. It is challenging and extremely hard work. One area im working on is around certain people i detach or disassociate ...i become an empty shell. If i know someone doesn't like me i lose who i am 😢 My boss really doesnt like me for reasons that arent true...i become and can feel like what she thinks i am! Then i feel like a fraud when im actually being me and loving my job and myself. Its stopping me moving forward in my career. 😢 im a half trained therapist. Mental health issues stopped me continuing my journey. This is the last part of recovery i feel but dont know how to get passed it. Sorry for long message ❤

without digging into ur traumas in detial and painfully cleansing the amygdala of the pain u shouldve gotten out as a kid or whenever that caused the dissasociation, u will still live a life of anxiety , mood swings and dissassociation. exposure therapies and psycho therapy first and then dbt and cbt

Nice channel

I think bpd can be managed quite well as long as the person with bpd and the people in their circle are aware of how their own emotions affect themselves and the people around them. Once people (with bpd or not) understand their own issues and want to be better people they can improve more easily and quickly than you might think. Its really a matter of catching yourself in the moment, pause and assess what is happening. Tell yourself not to trust your first instinct. Your first instinct may be right or may be wrong but you have to stop, pause, leave the situation safely if you have to, calm down then re-evaluate. There is more to it than that but its not too complicated in the end. Once people make it more complicated then healing from bpd takes longer than it needs to be. I have been with my bpd partner for over 15 years. She is the love of my life! Bottom line is check yourself before you wreck yourself

I totally get that. I’m just now figuring out on my own that I have complex bpd. My psychologist has been telling me I have bipolar 2 disorder. I’m really not in a good place right now. It’s totally ruining my now relationship. I’ve been numb, depressed, angry, and moments of rage. I’ve been struggling since 15 yrs old when I had my first panic attack and then depression. I’ve had some periods of being ok. But mostly depressed, anxious and fearful. And a string of toxic relationships. I’m basically tired and can’t even see the light at the end of the tunnel. I just started Latuda 20mg and begin therapy this coming week. I don’t know if I can make it! I’m so disappointed with myself and my life. God please help me!

BPD is a pattern of behaviors the brain frequently uses when under immense actual or perceived stress. These patterns are either learned in childhood, or develop as a result of overwhelmingly stressful situations in childhood. The problem occurs when these patterns get stuck during adulthood. So, the challenge is for the adult to learn a whole new set of behaviors, understand why they’re the correct behaviors, practice them in their day to day relationships, and also learn identify potentially toxic relationships and situations and how to handle them appropriately so as to prevent a recurrence of BPD behaviors. It’s learning a whole new set of habits, which can be difficult in adulthood. However, difficult does not mean impossible. It means you have to stick to it until you learn it well.

Thank you so much! I find this really well explained.

Great job

I have severe bpd and recently found out I have adhd. I don’t believe bpd can be “cured” as is stated at the end of the documentary. What I think is that by doing the dialectical behaviour therapy, you would be better equipped to handle situations but the turmoil a person feels every day never goes away for good. I will be 70 year old next month and I have suicidal thoughts all the time bc I just can’t seem to get better. I feel very hopeless most of the time.